{"id":9143,"date":"2022-02-21T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-21T08:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/?p=9143"},"modified":"2025-02-19T09:53:03","modified_gmt":"2025-02-19T08:53:03","slug":"pocuvam-2-zacina-to-srdcom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/pocuvam-2-zacina-to-srdcom\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u010d\u00favam 2: &#8230;za\u010d\u00edna to srdcom"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">V <a href=\"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/2022\/02\/pocuvam-1-a-predsa-nepocujem\/\">predch\u00e1dzaj\u00facom \u010dl\u00e1nku<\/a> som okrem zadefinovania zl\u00e9ho posluch\u00e1\u010da s\u013e\u00fabila, \u017ee sa pozrieme na to, ako kultivova\u0165 na\u010d\u00favaj\u00face srdce. Pre\u010do srdce, a nie nejak\u00fd spr\u00e1vny sp\u00f4sob, ako to robi\u0165? Technika je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e1, ale nie prvorad\u00e1. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pozri sa do seba. \u010co chce\u0161, aby sa udialo, ke\u010f \u0165a kamar\u00e1t po\u010d\u00fava?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">U m\u0148a je to t\u00fa\u017eba by\u0165 vypo\u010dut\u00e1, viden\u00e1, poznan\u00e1. \u017de je tu niekto, kto mi rozumie, aj ke\u010f \u017eijeme ka\u017ed\u00fd nie\u010do in\u00e9.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A preto tu <strong>ide najprv o srdce<\/strong>! Adam S. McHugh v knihe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodreads.com\/en\/book\/show\/25528680-the-listening-life\">\u201eThe\nListening Life\u201d <\/a>definuje na\u010d\u00favaj\u00face srdce ako to, ktor\u00e9 vyh\u013ead\u00e1va miesta, kde by mohlo da\u0165,\nposl\u00fa\u017ei\u0165, u\u010di\u0165 sa. P\u00fdta sa ot\u00e1zky: \u201e<em>K\u00fdm sa m\u00e1m sta\u0165, aby bol zo m\u0148a dobr\u00fd\nposluch\u00e1\u010d? Ako zv\u00fd\u0161im svoju kapacitu k po\u010d\u00favaniu, ktor\u00e9 porozumie druh\u00fdm?<\/em>\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nie je na \u0161kodu za\u010da\u0165 <strong>pokorou<\/strong>. Uzna\u0165, \u017ee \u013eudia s\u00fa ove\u013ea komplexnej\u0161\u00ed, ako si vieme predstavi\u0165. Jeden rozhovor nevyrie\u0161i v\u0161etko. Pokora buduje <strong>\u00factu<\/strong>, ktor\u00fa potrebujeme pri vstupovan\u00ed do rozhovorov s \u013eu\u010fmi. Pokora taktie\u017e poh\u00e1\u0148a <strong>zvedavos\u0165<\/strong>. T\u00e1 je ako so\u013e, \u010do ochucuje rozhovor, v ktorom chcem spozna\u0165 druh\u00e9ho \u010dloveka. A ako v takom rozhovore zosta\u0165 naplno pr\u00edtomn\u00fd?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Neust\u00e1le si pripom\u00ednaj, \u017ee to nie je o tebe!<\/strong> Pom\u00f4\u017eu ti v tom:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>1. Otvoren\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Namiesto \u201eMal si dobr\u00fd v\u00edkend?\u201d sa op\u00fdtaj, \u201eAk\u00fd bol tvoj v\u00edkend?\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Otvoren\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky s\u00fa pozvan\u00edm, aby \u010dlovek vyjadril svoje my\u0161lienky, pocity,\n\u010di postrehy. Zv\u00e4\u010d\u0161a sme dobr\u00ed v kladen\u00ed prvej ot\u00e1zky, ale v skuto\u010dnosti je to\nt\u00e1 druh\u00e1, ktor\u00e1 odomyk\u00e1 br\u00e1ny do \u010fal\u0161\u00edch svetov. V jednoduchosti je jej sila: \u201eM\u00f4\u017ee\u0161\nmi o tom poveda\u0165 viac?\u201d Stiahni to na ak\u00fdko\u013evek kontext. D\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 je, \u017ee\npoz\u00fdva\u0161 \u010dloveka, aby ti povedal viac. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>2. Reflektovanie na to, \u010do si po\u010dul<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eZd\u00e1 sa, \u017ee si frustrovan\u00fd a doma sa c\u00edti\u0161 v t\u00fdchto d\u0148och prive\u013emi kontrolovan\u00fd\u201d. Ide o ak\u00e9si zhrnutie toho, \u010do si doposia\u013e v rozhovore po\u010dul. Je to dobr\u00fd n\u00e1stroj, ako sa uisti\u0165, \u017ee rozumie\u0161 tomu, \u010do po\u010duje\u0161.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu\u010f v\u0161ak opatrn\u00fd a d\u00e1vkuj ho primerane. Ak to rob\u00ed\u0161 st\u00e1le, m\u00f4\u017ee to vyznie\u0165 umelo, a je tam nebezpe\u010denstvo, \u017ee za\u010dne\u0161 veci vysvet\u013eova\u0165 cez svoju optiku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pam\u00e4taj, \u017ee cie\u013eom tak\u00e9hoto zhrnutia\/reflexie je t\u00fa\u017eba porozumie\u0165 srdcu druh\u00e9ho \u010dloveka a odhali\u0165 mo\u017eno aj nie\u010do, \u010doho si nie je vedom\u00fd ani on s\u00e1m. \u010casto ide o uznanie em\u00f3cie, ktor\u00e1 le\u017e\u00ed pod povrchom toho, \u010do sa komunikuje. Rozpozna\u0165 ju, pomenova\u0165, a t\u00fdm p\u00e1dom uzna\u0165, je ve\u013ekou vecou!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>3. Ot\u00e1zka ako odpove\u010f na ot\u00e1zku<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201ePre\u010do sa p\u00fdta\u0161?\u201d Autor v knihe spom\u00edna, \u017ee si za tie roky praxe v\u0161imol, ako \u013eudia, hoci radi \u017eiadaj\u00fa o radu, o \u0148u zv\u00e4\u010d\u0161a nestoja. Sk\u00f4r chc\u00fa dosta\u0165 pr\u00edle\u017eitos\u0165 rozdiskutova\u0165 svoj z\u00e1pas. A pr\u00e1ve preto polo\u017eenie \u010fal\u0161ej ot\u00e1zky je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Napr\u00edklad:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eAko (by) si rie\u0161il nejednotu v t\u00edme?&#8220;<br>\u201eModlil som sa a za\u010dali sme ako t\u00edm \u0161tudova\u0165 v\u00fdznam jednoty &#8211; v Biblii,\u2026&#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Alebo<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eP\u00fdta\u0161 sa, lebo\u2026?\u201d<br>\u201eLebo je to nie\u010do \u010do vn\u00edmam ako probl\u00e9m v na\u0161om t\u00edme. \u013dudia s\u00edce robia svoje \u00falohy, ale ako keby ka\u017ed\u00e9ho zauj\u00edma len jeho pieso\u010dek.\u201d<br>\u201eV \u010dom sa ti zd\u00e1, \u017ee ide len o ich pieso\u010dek?\u201d<br>\u201eKomunik\u00e1cia v r\u00e1mci t\u00edmu viazne, mali by sme sa viac informova\u0165 o svojich zodpovednostiach.\u201d<br>\u201e\u010ci\u017ee jednotu v t\u00edme meria\u0161 pod\u013ea miery komunik\u00e1cie?\u201d<br>\u201eAsi \u00e1no, nie, neviem\u2026\u201d<br>at\u010f\u2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ot\u00e1zkami pom\u00e1ha\u0161 \u010dloveku pomenova\u0165, v \u010dom vid\u00ed probl\u00e9m, priam uvedomi\u0165 si, o \u010do tu naozaj ide.&nbsp;A tebe to pom\u00f4\u017ee lep\u0161ie pochopi\u0165, pre\u010do sa dan\u00fd \u010dlovek p\u00fdta. Miesto d\u00e1vania rady takto spolu m\u00f4\u017eete n\u00e1js\u0165 rie\u0161eniu probl\u00e9mu. Kladen\u00edm ot\u00e1zok prejavuje\u0161 z\u00e1ujem o \u010dloveka! Si ochotn\u00fd \u00eds\u0165 hlb\u0161ie a to je vz\u00e1cne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dalo by sa p\u00edsa\u0165 e\u0161te \u010falej, ale nepon\u00e1h\u013eajme sa. Za\u010dnime kultivovan\u00edm na\u010d\u00favaj\u00faceho srdca t\u00fdm, \u017ee budeme tr\u00e1vi\u0165 \u010das pri Jeho noh\u00e1ch. A potom aplikujme v\u0161etky tie m\u00fadre tipy. Nezabudnime na pokoru, \u00factu a zosta\u0148me zvedav\u00ed!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fotografia: <a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/@etienneblg?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\">Etienne Boulanger<\/a>\/<a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\">Unsplash<\/a>    <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>V predch\u00e1dzaj\u00facom \u010dl\u00e1nku som okrem zadefinovania zl\u00e9ho posluch\u00e1\u010da s\u013e\u00fabila, \u017ee sa pozrieme na to, ako kultivova\u0165 na\u010d\u00favaj\u00face srdce. Pre\u010do srdce, a nie nejak\u00fd spr\u00e1vny sp\u00f4sob, ako to robi\u0165? Technika je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e1, ale nie prvorad\u00e1. Pozri sa do seba. \u010co chce\u0161, aby sa udialo, ke\u010f \u0165a kamar\u00e1t po\u010d\u00fava?&nbsp; U m\u0148a je to t\u00fa\u017eba by\u0165 vypo\u010dut\u00e1, viden\u00e1,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":9171,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_robots_follow":"","_seopress_robots_imageindex":"","_seopress_robots_snippet":"","_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_robots_breadcrumbs":"","_seopress_robots_freeze_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_custom_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_canonical":"","_seopress_social_fb_title":"","_seopress_social_fb_desc":"","_seopress_social_fb_img":"","_seopress_social_fb_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_height":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_title":"","_seopress_social_twitter_desc":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_height":0,"_seopress_redirections_value":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled_regex":"","_seopress_redirections_logged_status":"","_seopress_redirections_param":"","_seopress_redirections_type":0,"_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"","_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","footnotes":"","_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[334,337],"tags":[190,78],"class_list":["post-9143","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-trenovat","category-ucenictvo","tag-pocuvanie","tag-rozhovor"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":334,"label":"Tr\u00e9nova\u0165"},{"value":337,"label":"U\u010den\u00edctvo"}],"post_tag":[{"value":190,"label":"po\u010d\u00favanie"},{"value":78,"label":"rozhovor"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/etienne-boulanger-erCPgyXNlto-unsplash-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Darina Mal\u00e1","author_link":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/author\/darinamala\/"},"comment_info":"","category_info":[{"term_id":334,"name":"Tr\u00e9nova\u0165","slug":"trenovat","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":334,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":0,"count":140,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":334,"category_count":140,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Tr\u00e9nova\u0165","category_nicename":"trenovat","category_parent":0},{"term_id":337,"name":"U\u010den\u00edctvo","slug":"ucenictvo","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":337,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":334,"count":51,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":337,"category_count":51,"category_description":"","cat_name":"U\u010den\u00edctvo","category_nicename":"ucenictvo","category_parent":334}],"tag_info":[{"term_id":190,"name":"po\u010d\u00favanie","slug":"pocuvanie","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":190,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":7,"filter":"raw"},{"term_id":78,"name":"rozhovor","slug":"rozhovor","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":78,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":50,"filter":"raw"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9143","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9143"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9143\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9171"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9143"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9143"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pointonline.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9143"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}