\u010co si mysl\u00ed\u0161, si dobr\u00fd posluch\u00e1\u010d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Na z\u00e1klade \u010doho si odpovedal?
\u201e\u00c1no, lebo som tich\u00fd introvert?\u201d
\u201eNie, lebo som extrovertn\u00fd sangvinik?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pri op\u00e4tovnom \u010d\u00edtan\u00ed knihy \u201eThe Listening Life\u201d (Adam S. McHugh) som si znova uvedomila, \u017ee by\u0165 ticho a po\u010d\u00fava\u0165 nie je to ist\u00e9. Ako autor p\u00ed\u0161e, po\u010d\u00favanie nie je to, \u010do rob\u00edm, ak neviem, \u010do poveda\u0165. Ak vyu\u017e\u00edvam ticho, aby som so sebou vn\u00fatorne viedla debatu, chystala si stanovisk\u00e1, n\u00e1zory, ktor\u00e9 poviem druhej strane, tak potom nie som dobr\u00fd posluch\u00e1\u010d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dobr\u00e1 spr\u00e1va je, \u017ee sa to d\u00e1 nau\u010di\u0165. Stoj\u00ed to \u010das, energiu, ale stoj\u00ed to za to! Pozrieme sa na to, ako kultivova\u0165 na\u010d\u00favaj\u00face srdce. Ale e\u0161te predt\u00fdm zosta\u0148me tu, vo f\u00e1ze \u201ezl\u00e9ho po\u010d\u00favania\u201d. Aby sme sa mohli posun\u00fa\u0165 vpred, je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 identifikova\u0165, pomenova\u0165 a mo\u017eno aj prizna\u0165 svoju vinu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Netreba k tomu ve\u013ea. Posta\u010d\u00ed aj nedostatok motiv\u00e1cie<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ak nebude moj\u00edm z\u00e1merom naozaj po\u010du\u0165 druh\u00fa stranu, sk\u00f4r \u010di nesk\u00f4r skon\u010d\u00edm v slepej uli\u010dke. M\u00f4\u017ee sa sta\u0165, \u017ee tzv. vypo\u010dutie druh\u00e9ho bude vlastne rozpr\u00e1vanie o mne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Toto neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee tak\u00e9to ot\u00e1zky nem\u00f4\u017eem nikdy pou\u017ei\u0165. D\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 v\u0161ak je, \u010do sa skr\u00fdva pod povrchom. Kladiem ot\u00e1zky ako d\u00f4kaz, \u017ee akt\u00edvne po\u010d\u00favam, a pritom ide sk\u00f4r o vypo\u010d\u00favanie, kde sledujem vlastn\u00fa agendu? Chyt\u00e1m sa slov, viet, z\u00e1\u017eitkov druhej strany a \u201eprirodzene\u201d premost\u00edm k t\u00fdm svojim? Inform\u00e1cie prefiltrujem cez svoje sk\u00fasenosti a sna\u017e\u00edm sa vn\u00fati\u0165 moje rie\u0161enie probl\u00e9mu? Alebo len nech\u00e1m dohovori\u0165 \u010dloveka, a spust\u00edm in\u00fa t\u00e9mu. Po\u010dujem, \u010do druh\u00e1 osoba hovor\u00ed, alebo jej skuto\u010dne rozumiem? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tak \u010do? Na\u0161iel si sa v niektor\u00fdch z pr\u00edkladov? Gratulujem k \u00faprimnosti! Nie je pr\u00edjemn\u00e9 prizna\u0165 si chybu, priam a\u017e hriech vo\u010di druhej osobe. \u00daprimn\u00e9 vyznanie pred Bohom je v\u0161ak t\u00fdm najlep\u0161\u00edm prv\u00fdm krokom ku zmene. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u010co tak si po\u010das nasleduj\u00faceho t\u00fd\u017ed\u0148a na sebe viac uvedomova\u0165 svoje reakcie po\u010das rozhovorov s \u013eu\u010fmi doma, v pr\u00e1ci, \u0161kole, na ml\u00e1de\u017ei? \u010co je tvoj predvolen\u00fd re\u017eim (default mode)? Ako dlho vydr\u017e\u00ed\u0161 po\u010d\u00fava\u0165 a po ko\u013ek\u00fdch min\u00fatach \u0165a u\u017e vyp\u00edna? V nasleduj\u00facom \u010dl\u00e1nku sa pozrieme na to, \u010do sa s t\u00fdm d\u00e1 robi\u0165, ak\u00e9 s\u00fa z\u00e1kladn\u00e9 princ\u00edpy a sp\u00f4soby ako zosta\u0165 v rozhovore naplno pr\u00edtomn\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fotografia: Aar\u00f3n Blanco Tejedor<\/a>\/Unsplash<\/a> <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u010co si mysl\u00ed\u0161, si dobr\u00fd posluch\u00e1\u010d? Na z\u00e1klade \u010doho si odpovedal?\u201e\u00c1no, lebo som tich\u00fd introvert?\u201d \u201eNie, lebo som extrovertn\u00fd sangvinik?\u201d Nie je to to ist\u00e9 Pri op\u00e4tovnom \u010d\u00edtan\u00ed knihy \u201eThe Listening Life\u201d (Adam S. McHugh) som si znova uvedomila, \u017ee by\u0165 ticho a po\u010d\u00fava\u0165 nie je to ist\u00e9. 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