Existuj\u00fa dva typy \u013eud\u00ed. Prv\u00fd typ je ako \u010dierny \u010daj, ktor\u00fd m\u00e1te vyl\u00fahovan\u00fd tak za 2 min\u00faty. S\u00fa to \u013eudia, ktor\u00fdm sta\u010d\u00ed p\u00e1r min\u00fat na to, aby sa c\u00edtili bezpe\u010dne a otvorene a nemus\u00edte pre to ani ve\u013ea urobi\u0165. Druh\u00fd typ \u013eud\u00ed je ako bylinkov\u00fd \u010daj; k\u00fdm je pripraven\u00fd a dobr\u00fd, trv\u00e1 mu to aj 10 min\u00fat \u2013 teda ove\u013ea dlh\u0161ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ja som ur\u010dite typ bylinkov\u00fd \u010daj \u2013 k\u00fdm dostanete nie\u010do \u201edobr\u00e9\u201c, podstatn\u00e9, z m\u00f4jho vn\u00fatra, m\u00f4\u017ee to trva\u0165 aj 2 hodiny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zrejme ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1me v \u017eivote \u013eud\u00ed, ktor\u00fdm trv\u00e1 dlh\u0161ie, aby sa v rozhovore c\u00edtili bezpe\u010dne, alebo s t\u00fdm potrebuj\u00fa trochu pom\u00f4c\u0165. T\u00fdka sa to aj rozhovorov o Kristovi \u2013 \u010di u\u017e ide o veriacich alebo neveriacich \u013eud\u00ed v na\u0161om \u017eivote.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201ePri poh\u013eade na z\u00e1stupy Mu ich pri\u0161lo \u013e\u00fato…\u201c Mat\u00fa\u0161 9:36<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
V inom preklade sa uv\u00e1dza, \u017ee bol pohnut\u00fd s\u00facitom. To je Je\u017ei\u0161ov postoj, ke\u010f pozer\u00e1 na z\u00e1stupy \u013eud\u00ed, ktor\u00ed potrebuj\u00fa pom\u00f4c\u0165. Ak pristupujeme k druh\u00fdm \u013eu\u010fom spolu s Kristom, aj my m\u00f4\u017eeme vstupova\u0165 do rozhovoru so s\u00facitom.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201eI sp\u00fdtal sa ich: O \u010dom sa tatko id\u00facky rozpr\u00e1vate?\u201c Luk\u00e1\u0161 24:17<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Pr\u00edbeh Emauzsk\u00fdch u\u010den\u00edkov mi pr\u00edde celkom vtipn\u00fd. Je\u017ei\u0161 mohol pr\u00eds\u0165 a poveda\u0165: „Ahojte, som tu!“ Alebo ich zastavi\u0165 a v\u0161etko im vysvetli\u0165. Ale On sa p\u00fdta ich<\/em><\/strong> \u010do pre\u017eili, ako vn\u00edmaj\u00fa to, \u010do sa deje, a ide popri nich cel\u00fa cestu, a\u017e k\u00fdm sami nespoznali, k\u00fdm bol. Ke\u010f sa zauj\u00edmame, p\u00fdtame a na\u010d\u00favame druh\u00fdm, vlastne napodob\u0148ujeme Je\u017ei\u0161a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A teda ako na to? Ako vstupova\u0165 do rozhovorov tak, aby sa \u013eudia c\u00edtili bezpe\u010dne? Okrem s\u00facitu a akt\u00edvneho na\u010d\u00favania<\/strong> pom\u00e1ha tie\u017e trpezlivos\u0165<\/strong> a<\/strong> zvedavos\u0165<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
S\u00facit a akt\u00edvne na\u010d\u00favanie<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Neverb\u00e1lna empatia<\/strong><\/h5>\n\n\n\n
Ke\u010f som bola na vysokej \u0161kole, po\u010dula som super skratku pre neverb\u00e1lnu empatiu, ktor\u00e1 n\u00e1m m\u00f4\u017ee pom\u00f4c\u0165 u\u010di\u0165 sa na\u010d\u00fava\u0165 lep\u0161ie. V slovenskej verzii je to PONOR<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Reprezentuje sp\u00f4soby, ktor\u00fdmi m\u00f4\u017eeme prejavi\u0165 empatiu \u2013 schopnos\u0165 vc\u00edti\u0165 sa do druh\u00e9ho \u010dloveka tak, \u017ee budeme vidie\u0165 svet ako ho vid\u00ed on\/ona. PONOR<\/strong> je o preukazovan\u00ed neverb\u00e1lnej empatie:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P \u2013 P\u00f3za<\/strong> \u2013 Ak k tebe niekto pr\u00edde na n\u00e1v\u0161tevu, c\u00edti sa zrejme cudzo a neisto. V takom pr\u00edpade namiesto slov o tom, aby sa \u010dlovek usadil a c\u00edtil v pohode, vie\u0161 pocit bezpe\u010dia podpori\u0165 aj t\u00fdm, \u017ee zrkadl\u00ed\u0161 jeho p\u00f3zu. Ke\u010f sed\u00ed, ur\u010dite si sadni. Ak stoj\u00ed, stoj aj ty. Napodobni n\u00e1ladu, ktor\u00fa nastolil a uk\u00e1\u017e, \u017ee je v poriadku, \u017ee tam proste len spolu ste a ni\u010d sa od neho ne\u010dak\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O \u2013 Otvorenos\u0165<\/strong> \u2013 Sna\u017e sa dr\u017ea\u0165 svoj postoj celkovo otvoren\u00fd. \u017diadne prekr\u00ed\u017een\u00e9 ruky ani nohy. M\u00f4\u017ee to by\u0165 celkom nepohodln\u00e9 alebo nepr\u00edjemn\u00e9, ale komunikuje to tvoju t\u00fa\u017ebu na\u010d\u00fava\u0165 a dozvedie\u0165 sa o druhej osobe viac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N \u2013 N\u00e1kloni\u0165 sa<\/strong> \u2013 Naklo\u0148 sa smerom k druh\u00e9mu \u010dloveku, nie od neho, bez toho, aby to pre neho bolo nejak\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobom ohrozuj\u00face. Malo by to komunikova\u0165, \u017ee si zaujat\u00fd, pr\u00edstupn\u00fd a chce\u0161 po\u010d\u00fava\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O \u2013 O\u010di<\/strong> \u2013 Pozeraj sa na \u010dloveka. Nedovo\u013e svojim o\u010diam \u010dasto bl\u00fadi\u0165, ani ke\u010f prem\u00fd\u0161\u013ea\u0161 nad t\u00fdm, \u010do hovor\u00ed. H\u013ea\u010f pevne a l\u00e1skavo (ale nie pr\u00edli\u0161 uprene). \u010co tvoje o\u010di druh\u00e9mu prezr\u00e1dzaj\u00fa?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
R \u2013 Relax<\/strong> (uvo\u013enenos\u0165) – Sna\u017e sa zachova\u0165 svoje svaly uvo\u013enen\u00e9 a pokojn\u00e9. Ak vyzer\u00e1\u0161 uvo\u013enene, druh\u00e9mu \u010dloveku t\u00fdm komunikuje\u0161, \u017ee si s n\u00edm r\u00e1d, \u017ee je v prostred\u00ed bezpe\u010dnom pre rozhovor, a \u017ee si s konverz\u00e1ciou v pohode. To \u010dasto pom\u00e1ha k tomu, aby sa pri rozhovore tie\u017e c\u00edtil uvo\u013enene a slobodne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Verb\u00e1lna empatia<\/strong><\/h5>\n\n\n\n
S verb\u00e1lnou empatiou m\u00e1me v\u0161eobecne viac sk\u00fasenosti. Jedna vec, ktor\u00e1 v tejto oblasti dok\u00e1\u017ee naozaj pom\u00f4c\u0165, je na\u010d\u00fava\u0165 aj tomu, \u010do je pod povrchom slov – \u010do si ten druh\u00fd v\u00e1\u017ei, po \u010dom t\u00fa\u017ei, \u010doho sa boj\u00ed,… \u010casto je to nejak\u00e1 em\u00f3cia. Sk\u00fas zopakova\u0165 a parafr\u00e1zova\u0165, \u010do po\u010duje\u0161 a potvrdi\u0165, \u010di si porozumel spr\u00e1vne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Napr\u00edklad: \u201eZnie to akoby si sa b\u00e1la, \u017ee o toto priate\u013estvo pr\u00edde\u0161 \u2013 je to pravda?\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ak toto niekto sprav\u00ed mne, som \u00faplne prekvapen\u00e1 a nad\u0161en\u00e1, ako super mi rozumie, a potom chcem o tom automaticky hovori\u0165 viac. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Trpezlivos\u0165 a zvedavos\u0165<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Podobne ako Je\u017ei\u0161 prist\u00fapil k u\u010den\u00edkom na ceste do Emauz s ot\u00e1zkou \u201eO \u010dom sa takto id\u00facky rozpr\u00e1vate?\u201c, aj my m\u00f4\u017eeme ochotu na\u010d\u00fava\u0165 vyjadri\u0165 t\u00fdm, \u017ee sa p\u00fdtame ot\u00e1zky. \u010casto v\u0161ak m\u00e1me tendenciu p\u00fdta\u0165 sa uzavret\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky (odpove\u010f je \u00e1no\/nie alebo ve\u013emi kr\u00e1tka inform\u00e1cia). Ja s\u00edce dostanem inform\u00e1ciu, ktor\u00fa chcem, ale ten druh\u00fd sa nemus\u00ed c\u00edti\u0165 vypo\u010dut\u00fd. Preto ak chceme \u00eds\u0165 viac do h\u013abky, m\u00f4\u017ee n\u00e1m pom\u00f4c\u0165 cielene sa p\u00fdta\u0165 preva\u017ene otvoren\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky. D\u00e1vame nimi druh\u00e9mu priestor, aby sa v konverz\u00e1cii vybral smerom, ktor\u00fdm chce on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Otvoren\u00e9 vs. uzavret\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky<\/strong><\/h5>\n\n\n\n
Uzavret\u00e9: Kedy? Kde? Kto? Je? S\u00fa? M\u00e1\u0161?<\/em><\/strong> Pr\u00edklady: Tvoj otec sa v\u017edy hnev\u00e1? M\u00e1\u0161 nejak\u00fdch priate\u013eov, ktor\u00fdm sa m\u00f4\u017ee\u0161 naozaj zd\u00f4veri\u0165? Kde si vyrastal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Otvoren\u00e9: Ako? \u010co? Pre\u010do?<\/em> (Povedz mi viac…)<\/strong> Pr\u00edklady: Ako tvoj otec vyjadruje em\u00f3cie? Povedz mi viac o priate\u013eoch, ktor\u00fdch m\u00e1\u0161 v ka\u017edodennom \u017eivote. \u010co si mala rada na mieste, kde si vyrastala?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bonus: Otvoreno-uzavret\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky! Pr\u00edklad: Ktor\u00ed \u013eudia ovplyvnili to, ak\u00fa chce\u0161 ma\u0165 vo svojom domove atmosf\u00e9ru? Potom m\u00f4\u017ee nasledova\u0165 otvoren\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka: Ako to ovplyvnilo to, ak\u00fd je tvoj domov teraz?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
2 tipy od 2 t\u00edned\u017eerov, ako vytvori\u0165 pocit bezpe\u010dia<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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- Ak sa \u0165a op\u00fdtaj\u00fa na tvoj n\u00e1zor, nezabudni da\u0165 priestor aj im a op\u00fdta\u0165 sa: \u201e\u010co si mysl\u00ed\u0161 ty<\/em>?<\/strong>\u201c<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Rozhovor m\u00f4\u017ee\u0161 zakon\u010di\u0165 ot\u00e1zkou: \u201eE\u0161te nie\u010do?<\/strong>\u201c (M\u00e1\u0161 e\u0161te nie\u010do na srdci, na mysli? Chcel\/a by si k tomu e\u0161te nie\u010do doda\u0165?) Bu\u010f pripraven\u00fd na to, \u017ee odpove\u010f m\u00f4\u017ee trva\u0165 dlho.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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