Z mojich sk\u00fasenost\u00ed s t\u00fdmto probl\u00e9mom, t\u00e1to osoba vyr\u00e1stla v domove, kde bol perfekcionizmus pr\u00edtomn\u00fd. Mo\u017eno u otca, mo\u017eno u matky. Ale v\u00fdsledky s\u00fa zvy\u010dajne podobn\u00e9. Ke\u010f vyrastaj\u00fa, v\u0161etko mus\u00ed by\u0165 perfektne upratan\u00e9, mus\u00ed ma\u0165 sam\u00e9 jednotky, pr\u00edkladn\u00e9 spr\u00e1vanie a \u010dist\u00e9 oble\u010denie. A ak to tak nie je, nastane n\u00e1tlak zo strany rodi\u010da – tresty, zahanbovanie, vynadanie, vina, hnev. Niekedy nie je \u013eahk\u00e9 ur\u010di\u0165, odkia\u013e tento tlak vych\u00e1dza. Mo\u017eno mal aj rodi\u010d rodi\u010dov, ktor\u00ed boli perfekcionisti. Mo\u017eno je to o tom, aby vyzerali dobre pred priate\u013emi \u010di rodinou. Mo\u017eno je to duchovn\u00e9 presved\u010denie, ke\u010f niekto ver\u00ed, \u017ee Boh tak\u00fdto \u0161tandard vy\u017eaduje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00f4\u017ee by\u0165 \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 oddeli\u0165 \u010dloveka s chorobou perfekcionizmu od \u010dloveka, ktor\u00fd si d\u00e1va vysok\u00e9 ciele. By\u0165 zodpovedn\u00fd a excelentn\u00fd je dobr\u00e1 vec. Indik\u00e1torom, \u017ee nie\u010do je zle, m\u00f4\u017ee by\u0165 pr\u00e1ve tlak; tlak (vo forme hanby, trestov, viny a pod.), ktor\u00fd rodi\u010d d\u00e1va na die\u0165a alebo nesk\u00f4r, tlak a vina, ktor\u00fa die\u0165a d\u00e1va samo na seba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Perfekcionizmus m\u00f4\u017ee ma\u0165 r\u00f4zne v\u00fdsledky. Samozrejme, tlak perfekcionizmu m\u00f4\u017ee vy\u00fasti\u0165 do r\u00f4znych \u00faspechov – perfektn\u00fdch zn\u00e1mok, \u010dist\u00e9ho domu, mno\u017estva pe\u0148az\u00ed, bezchybn\u00e9ho mejkapu, dobrej kondi\u010dky \u010di presn\u00fdch rut\u00edn. Ale ak\u00e1 je cena? Mo\u017eno najkritickej\u0161\u00ed v\u00fdsledok vidie\u0165 na samotnom \u010dloveku. \u010casto z\u00e1pas\u00ed s nach\u00e1dzan\u00edm pokoja a odpo\u010dinku. Nikdy sa ni\u010d nezd\u00e1 by\u0165 dos\u0165 dobr\u00e9 pre ich \u0161tandardy alebo \u0161tandardy \u201chlasov\u201d, ktor\u00e9 po\u010duj\u00fa v svojich hlav\u00e1ch z minulosti. Tak\u017ee \u010dasto spia menej, vst\u00e1vaj\u00fa sk\u00f4r, pl\u00e1nuj\u00fa viac, pracuj\u00fa tvrd\u0161ie, dosahuj\u00fa viac a dok\u00e1\u017eu splni\u0165 cel\u00fd zoznam \u00faloh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\tM\u00e1 to tie\u017e dopad na \u013eud\u00ed v\u00f4kol nich. M\u00f4\u017ee \u00eds\u0165 o t\u00fdch najbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch, ako partnerov \u010di deti, alebo t\u00fdch, s ktor\u00fdmi pracuj\u00fa alebo ktor\u00ed pracuj\u00fa pre nich. Bud\u00fa c\u00edti\u0165 tlak a hanbu, vinu, nepokoj alebo strach, ktor\u00fd s t\u00fdm prich\u00e1dza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\tTento tlak m\u00f4\u017ee vies\u0165 k probl\u00e9mom v man\u017eelstve, rozvodu, depresii det\u00ed \u010di reb\u00e9lii, konfliktu v pr\u00e1ci, vyhoreniu t\u00edmu \u010di strate pr\u00e1ce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Neexistuje \u013eahk\u00e9 rie\u0161enie pre stav, ktor\u00fd sa budoval cel\u00fd \u017eivot. Ale v nejakom bode v minulosti musel ten \u010dlovek us\u00fadi\u0165, \u017ee dokonalos\u0165 mu prinesie prijatie od ostatn\u00fdch aj od sam\u00e9ho seba. Je to pasca, ktorej sa n\u00e1m Boh opatrne pom\u00e1ha vyhn\u00fa\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
V Biblii n\u00e1m Boh ukazuje n\u00e1znak perfektn\u00e9ho \u017eivota bez hriechu v z\u00e1hrade Eden (Genezis 2). Potom n\u00e1m ukazuje (cez vo\u013ebu Adama a Evy) tendenciu n\u00e1\u0161ho srdca h\u013eada\u0165 dokonalos\u0165 inde ne\u017e v Jeho pl\u00e1ne (Genezis 3). Ale aj vo svetle tragick\u00e9ho neporozumenia Adama a Evy, ich zlyhania a zlyhania \u010fal\u0161\u00edch gener\u00e1ci\u00ed, Boh aj tak vytvor\u00ed bezpodmiene\u010dn\u00fa dohodu milosti s Abrah\u00e1mom (Genezis 12), v ktorej ukazuje svoju l\u00e1sku k \u013eudstvu aj napriek na\u0161im zlyhaniam. V knihe Exodus 20 n\u00e1m d\u00e1va Z\u00e1kon. Nie preto, aby n\u00e1s doviedol k dokonalosti, ale aby n\u00e1s u\u010dil v na\u0161ej slabosti. Pom\u00e1ha n\u00e1m to potvrdi\u0165 na\u0161u zlomen\u00fa hrie\u0161nos\u0165 a t\u00e1 n\u00e1s potom vedie k volaniu o z\u00e1chranu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\tPavol naz\u00fdva tlak dosiahnu\u0165 dokonalos\u0165 (alebo spravodlivos\u0165) jarmom alebo bremenom. V Liste Rimanom \u00fazkostlivo vysvet\u013euje, \u017ee pred Bohom nedok\u00e1\u017eeme sami obst\u00e1\u0165. A to je \u0165a\u017ek\u00e1 realita, ktor\u00fa perfekcionista nedok\u00e1\u017ee prija\u0165. Ale bez akceptovania tejto reality nikdy nen\u00e1jdeme Bo\u017eie rie\u0161enie. Pavol pokra\u010duje a v Liste Rimanom 1:17 odkr\u00fdva Bo\u017eie rie\u0161enie: \u201cPreto\u017ee v \u0148om sa zjavuje Bo\u017eia spravodlivos\u0165 z viery pre vieru, ako je nap\u00edsan\u00e9: Spravodliv\u00fd z viery bude \u017ei\u0165.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n V Evanjeliu pod\u013ea Mat\u00fa\u0161a 11:28 – 30 sa spom\u00edna podobn\u00fd mot\u00edv: \u201cPo\u010fte ku mne v\u0161etci, ktor\u00ed sa nam\u00e1hate a ste pre\u0165a\u017een\u00ed; ja v\u00e1m d\u00e1m odpo\u010din\u00fa\u0165. Vezmite na seba moje jarmo a u\u010dte sa odo m\u0148a, lebo som tich\u00fd a pokorn\u00fd srdcom, a n\u00e1jdete odpo\u010dinutie pre svoje du\u0161e. Ve\u010f moje jarmo je pr\u00edjemn\u00e9 a bremeno \u013eahk\u00e9<\/em>.\u201c A znovu v Evanjeliu pod\u013ea Luk\u00e1\u0161a 11:46: \u201cOn mu odpovedal: \u201eAj v\u00e1m, z\u00e1konn\u00edkom, beda! Lebo za\u0165a\u017eujete \u013eud\u00ed bremenami, ktor\u00e9 nemo\u017eno unies\u0165, ale sami sa t\u00fdch bremien ani jedin\u00fdm prstom nedotknete<\/em>.\u201d Tak\u017ee ak si osoba v\u0161imne niektor\u00e9 z tendenci\u00ed perfekcionizmu, m\u00f4\u017ee to by\u0165 sign\u00e1l, \u017ee existuje probl\u00e9m; probl\u00e9m, ktor\u00fd n\u00e1s m\u00f4\u017ee unavi\u0165 fyzicky, duchovne aj emo\u010dne. A m\u00f4\u017ee ma\u0165 hlbok\u00fd dopad na \u013eud\u00ed v\u00f4kol n\u00e1s. \u010c\u00edm sk\u00f4r dok\u00e1\u017eeme spozorova\u0165 perfekcionizmus, t\u00fdm sk\u00f4r s n\u00edm m\u00f4\u017eeme za\u010da\u0165 bojova\u0165. Bojova\u0165 boj s Je\u017ei\u0161om po na\u0161om boku. Je\u017ei\u0161 je jedin\u00fd perfektn\u00fd, ten, ktor\u00fd n\u00e1s dok\u00e1\u017ee milova\u0165 a vies\u0165 v na\u0161ej zlomenosti a slabosti na miesto radosti a pokoja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fotografia: <\/strong>Jonathan Hoxmark\/Unsplash<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Sympt\u00f3my Z mojich sk\u00fasenost\u00ed s t\u00fdmto probl\u00e9mom, t\u00e1to osoba vyr\u00e1stla v domove, kde bol perfekcionizmus pr\u00edtomn\u00fd. Mo\u017eno u otca, mo\u017eno u matky. Ale v\u00fdsledky s\u00fa zvy\u010dajne podobn\u00e9. 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